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I CAN’T CHANGE IT BUT I CAN OBSESS ABOUT IT CAN’T I?

I CAN’T CHANGE IT BUT I CAN OBSESS ABOUT IT CAN’T I? INNER DIALOGUE EXAMPLE I know I can’t change (insert situation) it. Worrying about it is pointless. Stop worrying about it and it will be ok because I can’t change it anyway. Why can’t I stop worrying about it????? FAMILIAR? Have you heard of the saying “That which we resist, persists” What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” Carl Gustav Jung By constantly telling yourself to stop worrying and concentrating on not

07/21/2016

Living in limbo - better to just visit

Living in Limbo – it's a place I would rather just visit We have all been there, stuck a bit, waiting…. Waiting…. For a plan to come together, Plans that can’t be put into action right now for whatever reason but they are in full flight in your head It is anxiety provoking to say the least. Your mind is making the plans, putting it all together, working out the details. Expectations and excitement mixed with uncertainty and pending action but no actual movement forward in any practical sense. I

01/07/2019

VulnerABILITY Make shame your Bitch

VulnerABILITY Make shame your bitch This is a long blog but I promise it is worth it. The dictionary defines vulnerability as “the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally”. This almost sounds like trauma? In fact, in disaster management, they use the term vulnerability of various aspects of society to cope after the disaster, or to estimate their risk of a disaster. That is a key phrase don’t you think? To cope!

09/21/2018

Hurt people; Hurt people

Hurt people hurt people I have heard this since I was very young with my Mum and Dad in a 12 step program, and then when I discovered Adult Children of Alcoholics. Hurt people do in deed hurt other people. This has been on my mind lately and it has come up for me over the past 6 months or so in various manifestations. I have been hurt, and I have hurt others. I have hurt the person/people who hurt me, and I am sure I have hurt innocent bystanders. You would think, if a person has been hurt,

06/19/2018

Why do we bother!

Why do we bother? Why do we bother with all this self care and self improvement? What is the point of it all anyway? Either way we will move through life with or without it. Either way we are in a (human) race that no one wins. So what if I smoke and drink and the only movement I have is a bowel movement, does it make me a better person, or do I win the race, if I meditate drink coconut water and exercise regularly? Nope. You are not a better or worse person either way. You are you and that

11/05/2017

There IS such a thing as normal

There is such a thing as normal So many times I hear people say to me “I would love to just be normal”. And I ‘get it’. People often comment “But what is normal?” and a common response is often, “Normal is just a setting on a washing machine, there’s no such thing”. The people who say this are genuinely trying to be helpful. If there is a setting that is normal, then there sure as hell are other settings that are NOT normal, suggesting that there is in an indicator pointing toward

06/18/2017